Well, this also applies in the different views in life, optimism-pessimism. Like someone who sees the glass as half empty, it goes to show that one could end up seeing the glass as half full too. The change is applicable to how we see life. Or in other words, it just show that pessimists can be optimists too. So now, one can develop a new studies to rewire this dark view into a vision of a bright world.
As I searched over some articles behind the understanding of this change, I found one entitled "How Pessimists Become Optimists: The Science Behind Affective Mindsets And Overcoming Negatives Biases" by Chris Weller.
The author started his article stating that psychologists claim that the certain cause of human behavior is nature vs nurture. Nature vs nature centers in the contributions of genetic inheritance and environmental factors. To explain further, refer to the photo beside. The character stated that "It's not all genetics, a lot of what makes a musician great is how they grow up." The statement might not be that clear, but what it is intended to say is that when someone is musically inclined, it isn't just so because his parents are inborn musicians but also it is a result of the enriched environment. Considering these assumptions, it just shows that certain things are developed depending on the genes and environment. This enters the fact that pessimism as part of a human behavior isn't actually just an inborn trait. If it isn't an inborn trait, then it also shows that pessimism isn't resistant to change. Development from the environment would help out pessimists to reach out the desired changes.
Also from the article, Tim Spector made a research on twins in order to understand how epigenetics which is the study of gene changes via environmental factors, influence behavior. It was made possible that identical twins differs in the viewpoint in life in which one is an optimist, and the other is a pessimist. He has found out that there's actually a room for plasticity in our genetic world. It is amazing how our world has been evolving. Making optimism and pessimism emancipated or unchained in our mindset. In which may give pessimists an opportunity to become optimists.
Lastly, the author also added that biases affect our mindset. The negative bias from pessimists would cloud negativity in a situation and vice versa for optimists. The thing is, these biases are controllable. Life is a matter of choice. Change is favorable depending on how we control life.A pessimist may undergo mindful meditation and try a short course on cognitive bias modification (CBM), in order to discard negativity and accept more on positivity. Making unwanted pessimists celebrate their being for it shows that you can actually change your outlook.
Now that you're aware of this change, let's move on to the coping styles. An article in which may help pessimists to overcome pessimism is entitled Becoming an Optimist by Amy Przeworski, from the website http://www.psychologytoday.com
Research shows that people can change alter their path to optimism and say goodbye to pessimsm. Also, researchers claim that people just have to teach themselves in order to be optimistic within 7 weeks by simply looking at angry and smiling faces, and by meditating for 20 minute. This procedural coping style will surely make a balance to this brain asymmetry
To fully strengthen her article she habe presented 8 steps to overcome this pessimism. First of all, breath. Before you give te feeling of the air flow slowly going inside your nostrils and goes down your throat into your lungs. Second,Listen to your heart. Feel your heart beat throwing it back to every part of your body. Third, Organize your thoughts. Think about your problems rationally instead of reacting to them emotionally. Fourth, Don’t try to stop your thoughts. Struggling your thoughts only make you stronger. Fifth, Act as if your thoughts are ambient noise. Make your thoughts like a noise that if you hear them, you don't listen to them. Sixth, Don’t judge your thoughts. Treat them with forgiveness, it will be easier to handle them. Seventh, Bring your thoughts back to track. Don't let negativity get in your thoughts. Lastly, Exercise this for a few minutes. Your brain will stop running in circles, and eventually it will work. The more you practice – the more you can easily handle worries and be in less panic.
Or generally, this pessimism is also subject to change.
As I was going through different articles regarding pessimism and love, I found an article entitled Being a Pessimist is Good for your Relationship from the website www.yourtango.com. It interests me by the fact that it contradicts the prevailing counsel of marriage experts that being patient, forgiving and understanding leads to a healthier relationship.
The author stated that optimism only pays off when a a couple's expectation translate into reality. It has always been from the start that couples expect the highest. They dream themselves of things which are far from reality. When it happens that they expect the highest, they suffer from extreme and irrational disappointments. Thus making pessimism a better approach to marriage since it is giving more likelihood to experience success and satisfaction in life, since expectations are low to begin.
The author added that a relationship is likely to be destroyed when couples force themselves to be optimistic during a rough marriage. Being positive at times a relationship gets in the state of despair could actually worsen the marriage. Glossing out the flaws can lead to long-term problems, thus making a relationship instead of growing together, growing apart. Making this negativity in particular develop good coping responses when relationships bleak. A researcher named McNulty discovered that maintaining a negative attitude during an argument can be an effective tactic in influencing a partner to change his or her ways, thus paving the path for a stronger marriage.
On the other hand, has it ever crossed your mind for a pessimist and optimist to get along in a relationship? Isn't it so ironic? Let's take note to that.The article of Heidi Grant Halvorson, Ph.D which is entitled When Optimist Marry Pessimists from the website Psychologytoday.com gave the readers a clear view on how it would work.
The author stated that optimists and pessimists are evident in a relationship. Since pessimists aren't that numerous., a relationship would basically include an optimist. Considering these two people, a relationship consists of two focuses: in which one tend to see their world in terms of what they may achieve, while the other see their world in terms of what they stand to lose. In other way, a optimist sees success as being about reaching the stars, while the pessimist sees success as avoiding dangers and troubles.
Considering these two articles, love isn't actually that predictable afterall. It may have a different take if it involves a pessimistic mind. It doesn't necessarily mean that one should be pessimistic in relationship. It isn't anymore such a question that negativity causes conflicts to a relationship. It's just that this negativity isn't that bad after all. Although it may bring conflicts in a relationship. Well, at some point this conflict may fruit to a healthier relationship or marriage either. Aa British Prime Minister Benjamin Disraeli once said, "It destroys one's nerves to be amiable every day to the same human being." Taking note of what he said, it turns out that he was also right. I must say, a healthy dose of pessimism is a key to a healthier relationship too!